3. cf. Frederic Lushkin of Stanford University-all points originate with Dr. Lushkin

# 3   "Understand your goal.  Forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciling with people or condoning their action.  You are looking for peace, the peace that comes from blaming less the one who has hurt you.  It is a process of taking the experiwence less personally and changing the way you look at your grievance.